Radical ideas

[aneighthdomain]

You know, I have some radical ideas. Because I am entirely too lazy to fend off others saying that I'm a heartless bitch, I figure I'll lay it out here. So apparently these was this article by some woman who was concerned about the bullying that her daughter got at school. Instead of telling her daughter to stand up for herself she writes a blog about the woes of bullying. Look, I know what it's like to be bullied. In grade school I was the crybaby, the cootie girl, I got hit, got my hair pulled, got ganged up on, got verbally bashed by ignorant little ingrates. I got it all. By fifth grade, I had no friends. I had to hang out with people who social standing was actually lower than mine during recess, and they pretty much ignored me. So eyah, I had my problems. I never told my mother what was going on at school. She knew of course. I have a happy kid. Always had been. So she knew when things were getting bad for me. She didn't know how bad. I never told any of the teachers what I was going through. I dealt with it on my own. So one day I turned around and decided that I wasn't going to take it anymore. I hated the way I felt all the time. I hated being scared of the people in my class. I hated getting hit, getting teased, getting treated as less than a person. With everything that I had already gone through in my young life at that point, acting like a little baby and not doing something to fix this was stupid.

So, I finally stood up for myself. The people would make fun of me, I'd make fun of them right back. When they called me a crybaby, the girl with the weave got called horse head, the boy with the lowest grades in class got called stupid, the girl who was supposed to be my friend and started blowing me off unless she was making fun of me got called a bitch. When someone would hit me, they got hit back. When people would gang up on me I would push back. Bullies don't want someone who is going to fight them back. They want someone weaker than they are so that they can feel better about themselves. Maybe two wrong don't make a right, but being a child in school is just like being a wild animal. If you appear weaker, you are attacked; if you appear stronger, you are left alone.

What most people don't realize is just because a child looks like a miniature version of you, doesn't mean they think like you do. Humans are animals, plane and simple. An adult has a developed brain that can find other ways to survive than survival of the fittest. A child still has the brain of an animal. Their brains don't develop to a point where they can problem solve until they reach their late teens. For a child, everything is black and white. There is no grey. How can we expect them to act like there is grey if they can't even see it? So all this bullshit about "Oh, my poor child! She can't defend herself from bullies," then you need to teach her to defend yourself because that is your job. You teach her to fight back, to stand up for herself. Pacifism doesn't work in the school yard. There will never be enough teachers to see that bullying doesn't happen. All we can hope to that they make sure things don't get out of hand.